Isikhokelo somkhathaleli ekuzikhathaleleni nasekuthinteleni ukudinwa ngumkhathaleli

Ukuphila kakuhle funda izinto ezinobungozi, iimpawu zokudinwa, kunye nendlela yokunciphisa umngcipheko wokudinwa ngumongi

Umkhathaleli nguye nawuphina umntu othatha inqanaba elibalulekileyo loxanduva lomnye umntu. Oku kunokuba lilungu losapho, umhlobo, okanye umsebenzi wezempilo ekhaya. Abakhathaleli babonisa ukungazingci, ukuzibophelela, kunye noxanduva yonke imihla. Kodwa bakwathwala uxanduva ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni olunokuba nzima.

Yintoni ukukhathala kwabanonopheli?

Ukudinwa kukhathalelo yimeko yokudinwa okupheleleyo okuziswa kukudakumba ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo ngokuthatha uxanduva kwiimfuno zomnye umntu.

Uqala njani ukudinwa ngumongi?

Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu odla ngokunyamekela umntu oqalayo ukukhathala uqala ngokudinwa ngokweemvakalelo. Uxinzelelo kunye nomthwalo wokubonelela ngeemfuno zomntu ezibalulekileyo kunokuphelisa amandla omntu okumelana. Iimvakalelo ezinjengomsindo, usizi, kunye noloyiko kunokuba nzima ukulawula kunesiqhelo.

Ukudinwa ngokwasemzimbeni kudla ngokulandela. Ukugcina ukhathalelo kuhlala kufuna iimfuno ezintsha zomzimba kwaye kuhlala kukhokelela ekunciphiseni eminye imisebenzi yomzimba njengokuzilolonga. Umntu omnye unokuziva edimazekile ngenxa yokuba bengasahambi kuhambo lwabo lwakusasa. Omnye umntu unokuba nezihlunu ezibuhlungu kuba kufuneka ahlambe aze ambathe omnye umntu, okanye alale kwenye indawo angayiqhelanga.

Ukudityaniswa kokudinwa ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba kungakhokelela ekudinweni kwengqondo. Umkhathaleli unokuqala ukwenza iimpazamo ezilula njengokulibala ukuqeshwa okanye ukushiya isithako esiphambili kwiresiphi oyithandayo. Ukulala ngokuzolileyo kunokuba nzima, kwaye umntu okhathalelayo usenokungabi nasizathu sokudibana nabantu. Kulapho ke ukudinwa kufikelele kwinqanaba lokudinwa.

Ukuba ukudinwa komntu okhathalelayo akuqwalaselwanga, oko kungakhokelela kukudakumba kwabanonopheli — imeko eyingozi kulowo umkhathaleleyo nakumntu abamgcinayo. Uxinzelelo luhlala lubonakaliswa kukuziva ungaxabisekanga, ukudana, okanye ukucaphuka, okunokuthi ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelele kwiingcinga ezingapheliyo zokuzenzakalisa okanye zenzakalise abanye.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo unengxaki yoxinzelelo okanye ukuzibulala kunye nokuziphatha, funa uncedo kumboneleli wezempilo okanye kwigumbi likaxakeka kwangoko. Ungatsalela umnxeba Uthintelo lokuZibulala kuZwelonke Nge-800-273-TALK (8255).

Kutheni ukunyamekela abantu kudinisa kangaka?

Ukunyamekela kuyadinisa ngenxa yexesha namandla ayifunayo. Xa umntu omthandayo engakwazi ukuzikhusela, ufuna ukumnceda. Kodwa xa ulungiselela ukutya, ulungisa imeko yabo yezemali, okanye ubanceda basebenzise igumbi lokuhlambela, usebenzisa amandla kunye neeyure eziqhelekileyo ezinikezelwe kwintlalontle yakho.

Ekugqibeleni, ukudinwa kuhlala kuvela ekulahlekelweni kukwazi ukwenza izinto ozithandayo kwaye zikwenze, wena.

Zeziphi izinto ezibangela umngcipheko wokudinwa emsebenzini?

Asingabo bonke abo banonophela abantu abadinwa ngokugqithiseleyo. Kodwa phakathi kwabo benzayo, Abaphandi bafumanise umngcipheko othile ezibonakala ngathi zenza abagcini bolondolozo babesengozini yokuphelelwa ngamandla. Asinguye wonke umntu onale miba yomngcipheko oya kuthi adinwe, kwaye abantu abangenazo ezi zinto banokudinwa nokuba kunjalo.

Okwangoku, kufanelekile ukuba uphonononge le micimbi yomngcipheko kunye nokwazi nayiphi na esebenzayo kuwe.

• Imisebenzi enzima ngokwasemzimbeni (okt, ukuphakamisa umntu ngaphandle kwebhafu)
• Kukukhathalela umntu oneengxaki zokuziphatha kakubi (okt, isifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo), hayi ezomzimba kuphela
• Ubunzima bezezimali
• Ukuhlala nomntu omkhathalelayo
• Ukungabi nabahlobo okanye inethiwekhi yokuxhasa
• Ipesenti ephezulu yexesha okanye ixesha elide elichithwe njengomgcini
• Imbali yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi

Zeziphi iimpawu zokudinwa ngumongi?

Iimpawu ezithile zingabonisa ukudinwa okupheleleyo okanye ukukhathala ngumkhathaleli. Ukuba ungumkhathaleli okanye wazi umntu okhathalelayo, jonga le miqondiso ilandelayo.

• Ndiziva ndoyisiwe
• Ndiziva ndikhathazekile rhoqo
• Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo, okanye ukulala kakhulu
• Ukufumana okanye ukunciphisa umzimba
• Ukuziva unomsindo kumntu omkhathaleleyo
• Ndiziva ndicaphuka msinya
• Ukuphepha abahlobo kunye nosapho
• Ndiziva ndikhathazekile okanye ndingenathemba
• Ukuba neentlungu zomzimba rhoqo, ezinjengeentloko
• Ukonyusa ukusetyenziswa kotywala, iziyobisi, okanye amayeza kagqirha
• Ukugula rhoqo

Abakhathaleli abafumana nayiphi na kwezi mpawu kufuneka bathethe nogqirha wabo.

Ukulinganisa uxinzelelo lomkhathaleli kunye nokudinwa

Inkqubo ye- Udliwanondlebe noZarit Burden sesona sixhobo sokuqonda isifo sisetyenziswa kakhulu ekuchongeni umthwalo womkhathaleli.

Ukuchonga ukuba unengxaki yoxinzelelo kukhathalelo olugqithisileyo, cinga ngokuthatha le nto Iphepha lemibuzo elinovavanyo lomntu okhathalela impilo Oko kwaphuhliswa nguMbutho Wezonyango waseMelika.

Ungakuphepha njani ukukhathala ngumongi

Ngoku unokuqonda ukuba yintoni ukudinwa kukhathalelo, kwaye ungakuqonda njani, kwaye ngubani onokukufumana? Nazi iindlela ezili-12 eziqinisekisiweyo zokuphepha ukudinwa.

1. Qiniseka ukuba uyazifunela ikhefu

Akukho qhosha lokuphumla lokugcina. Wonke umntu okhathalelayo usenokuba unomdla wokuhamba nje, kodwa bayayiqonda into yokuba ukwenza njalo kunokuba yingozi kumntu oxhomekeke kubo. Awufuni ukuyivumela ukuba ifike kuloo ndawo.

Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuphumeza ikhefu kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla kubaluleke kakhulu. Ikhefu elifutshane linokuba nefuthe elihle kwimbono yakho yengqondo.

Ngamanye amaxesha, umntu omkhathalelayo unokuzilawula yedwa iiyure ezimbalwa, ukuze ubaleke. Abanye banokukwazi ukuzonwabisa ngokukhuselekileyo ngelixa ukwelinye igumbi.

Ukuba unceda umntu ofuna ukubekwa esweni rhoqo, kuya kufuneka uzimisele malunga nokucwangcisa ikhefu. Oku kunokuthetha ukuyila ummelwane, umhlobo, okanye ilungu losapho ukunceda amaxesha ngamaxesha. Okanye kunokuthetha ukuqesha umsebenzi wokhathalelo lwempilo ekhaya ukuba ayeke kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ngeveki.

Sele sifundile ukuba ipesenti ephezulu yexesha elichithwa njengomkhathaleli ngumngcipheko wokudinwa. Yenza konke onako ukuqinisekisa ukuba unalo ixesha lakho lokuphumla nokuzihlaziya. Yeyona nto intle kuwe nakumntu omkhathaleleyo.

2.Sebenzisa izixhobo ezenza ukwabelana ngokulula kube lula

Umkhathaleli oyintloko akayena umsebenzi wezempilo kuphela, bayintatheli, nayo. Vala usapho kunye nabahlobo baya kulindela uhlaziyo kwizihloko ezinjengeempawu, ukuxela kwangaphambili, indlela asebenza ngayo amayeza abo, into ayityayo umntu, kunye nokunye.

Iifowuni ezizodwa okanye ii-imeyile zilungile, kodwa zichitha ixesha. Xa umnakekeli engakwazi ukubonelela ngohlaziyo rhoqo njengoko befuna, banokuziva benetyala ngayo eyongeza umthwalo wabo.

Izixhobo ezinje Ukunyamekela iBridge , Iposi , okanye MyLifeLine yenza unxibelelwano lube lula. Ezi ndawo zikuvumela ukuba uthumele uhlaziyo ngaxeshanye-kunye nolawulo lokukhusela ubumfihlo babathandekayo bakho.

Uhlaziyo olunye olwabiwe nawo wonke umntu luyanciphisa umngcipheko wokunxibelelana gwenxa. Wonke umntu uya kuba nolwazi olufanayo, ngoko azive eshiywe ngaphandle.

3. Sebenzisa izixhobo ze-intanethi

Wonke umntu okhathalelayo kufuneka abe nesixhobo esinofikelelo kwi-intanethi. Iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo kunye nezixhobo ezibalulekileyo zihlala zinqakraza nje kude.

Omnye wemizekelo emininzi ngu Indawo yase-Eldercare . Indawo yezixhobo zasimahla, eveliswe liSebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neenkonzo zoLuntu, inoyilo olucocekileyo, olufundekayo kunye nonxibelelwano oluthembekileyo. Ngokucofa nje okumbalwa, unokunxibelelana neinshurensi, ukuthuthwa, kunye nezixhobo zononophelo lwasekhaya.

Uninzi lwezixhobo ezikwi-Intanethi zabanonopheli kufuneka ziboniswane nazo, ezinje ngamaqela enkxaso kwi-Intanethi kunye nemibutho yezempilo yasekhaya.

4. Joyina iqela lenkxaso

Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiqela lenkxaso yenye yeendlela ezigqwesileyo anokuthi umongi asebenzise ngazo ixesha labo elilinganiselweyo. Ukunyamekela kunokuzihlukanisa kwaye kuphazamise. Kwinqanaba elisisiseko, iqela lenkxaso likhumbuza abanonopheli ukuba kukho abanye abajamelene nemiceli mngeni efanayo.

Kodwa kwinqanaba elinzulu, iqela lenkxaso linokunceda ukubonelela ngesikhokelo esisekwe kumava. Kwaye umntu okhathalelayo angaluva ulwaneliseko kunye ne-catharsis yokunceda abanye ngokwabelana ngempumelelo yabo kunye nokusilela kwabo nabanye abantu abacinga njalo.

Ukuzibophelela kula mava abelwanayo kuhlala kukhokelela kubuhlobo. Njengokuba inokubaxhasa kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo, banokuqonda kuphela into ohamba kuyo. Umntu esikhathalelayo naye angabelana naye ngomthwalo kwaye akuxhase, njengomntu osebenza kunye naye

5. Yenza uvavanyo lokuzihlola rhoqo

Ukudinwa ngumongi akukwenzeki konke ngaxeshanye. Ukudinwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo kuqokelela ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Ubeka ithuba elingcono lokuphepha ukudinwa ukuba ulandela umkhondo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Ukuthatha uvavanyo lokuzihlola rhoqo (yithi, kanye ngenyanga) kuya kukunika umbono ocacileyo wokuba uqhuba njani.

Ukuzivavanya ngokwakho kubuza imibuzo esisiseko malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye nempilo yakho yomzimba. Akufanele bathathe ngaphezulu kwemizuzu eli-10 ukuya kweli-15. Sincoma Iphepha lemibuzo elinovavanyo lomntu okhathalela impilo , eyaphuhliswa nguMbutho Wezonyango waseMelika.

Olu tyalo-mali lwexesha elincinci lunokukusindisa kwimiphumo yokudinwa.

6. Gcina ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye abahlobo kunye nosapho

Xa umntu omthandayo ehamba nengxaki yempilo, wonke umntu ufuna ukunceda. Ngamanye amaxesha olona ncedo lulungileyo luyeyona ilula: Ukufikelela kumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho.

Abakhathaleli bafuna imeko yesiqhelo enokuthi ifumaneke ngokuhambahamba nomntu owayesebenza naye, ukuba nebrunch kunye nabahlobo bakudala, okanye ukonwabela ubusuku kwindawo yokubhowula.

Abahlobo kunye nosapho banokuziva ngathi kufuneka benze okungaphezulu, okanye banokuziva bethandabuza ukuzama ukunxibelelana nawe. Zama ukugcina ishedyuli nabahlobo kunye namalungu osapho, nokuba kukutsalela umnxeba rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbalwa okanye ngokulungiselela isidlo sasemini kube kanye ngeveki.

7. Beka imida

Olunye lolona tshintsho lukhulu xa usiba ngumongi luthathela omnye umntu izigqibo. Kwaye nabantu abamthandayo loo mntu basenokungasoloko bevumelana nezigqibo ozenzayo.

Awungekhe wonwabe wonke umntu, kwaye ukuqikelelwa okwesibini kongeza kumthwalo wakho. Usapho kunye nabahlobo abafuna ukunika uncedo banokwenza njalo ngendlela eya kuphazamisa inkqubo yakho.

Misela imida ecacileyo malunga nezinto ezinje ngoobani ekufuneka baye kutyelelo logqirha, ukuba abantu mabatyelele nini, kunye nohlobo loncedo oludingayo.

8. Zibekele iinjongo zempilo, kubandakanya impilo yengqondo

Umthwalo weemvakalelo wokukhathalela onokubangela ukuba ungayikhathaleli impilo yakho engokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni.

Ukuziphatha okuhle njengokuzilolonga kunye nokucamngca kubalulekile xa uphantsi koxinzelelo lweemvakalelo. Ziyindlela esebenzayo yokuthomalalisa iingcinga zakho zokubaleka.

Zinike iinjongo ezinokufikeleleka kwimisebenzi enje. Iifowuni zokusebenza zinokunceda ngokubonelela ngezikhumbuzo zemihla ngemihla kunye neenkqubo zokucwangcisa kwangaphambili ezihlala imizuzu eli-10 ukuya kwengama-30.

9. Zibekele usukelo olusebenzayo malunga nokukhathalela kwakho kwaye ucele uncedo xa ulufuna

Iimeko ezininzi zokukhathalela ziqala kwimowudi yeengxaki kwaye zihlala apho. Leyo yindlela eqinisekileyo yokudinwa ngumkhathaleli.

Kwangoko, sebenza nogqirha wakho ukuchonga inqanaba lokwenyani lokunyamekela. Cinga ngeemfuno zomntu omthandayo zangoku nezexesha elizayo kwaye uza kuba nakho na ukubanikeza.

Umzekelo, umntu onesifo esiqhubela phambili, esiyekisayo unokukwazi ukusebenza ngokwesiqhelo ngoku, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa efuna uncedo lokungena nokuphuma ebhafini?

Zeziphi iintlobo zononophelo okhululekile ukuzinika? Ngaba unganikezela ngokudubula, okanye ujonge i-IV drip? Kuthekani ngokuqhuba uyokuthatha amayeza okanye izinto eziyimfuneko njengokutya kunye nabo emotweni?

Cinga malunga nokuza kukhathalela kwimeko yakho eyahlukileyo, kwaye usete iinjongo ezizizo malunga noko unokukwenza.

Ukuzigqithisa ngokwakho kungakhokelela ekudinweni (okanye kwimeko eyingozi) kumntu omkhathalelayo.

10. Thetha nengcali, kubandakanya itherapisti okanye unontlalontle

Ukuba ngumongi lixesha loxinzelelo kunye nokothuka. La ngamaxesha apho unyango lwentetho lunokuthuthuzela kwaye lubaluleke kakhulu kumandla ethu okuhlangabezana.

Usapho kunye nabahlobo banokuba yibhodi evakalayo, kodwa banobudlelwane obusondeleyo nomntu omkhathaleleyo. Oko kwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuxoxa ngokunyanisekileyo ngeemvakalelo zokuziva uneentloni, unetyala, okanye umsindo — iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo nezisebenzayo.

Ukuthetha nomntu wesithathu kukunika inkululeko yokuveza izimvo zakho, ubeke iimvakalelo zakho elubala, kwaye usebenze kubuchule bokuhlangabezana nazo.

11. Yiba sengqiqweni ngesifo somntu omthandayo

Esinye isizathu sokufuna iingcebiso kumntu wesithathu kukuba ukwazi ukuxoxa ngokunyanisekileyo indlela yomntu obathandayo yokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo-okanye ukungabikho kwabo.

Kwizigulana ezinesifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo, ngelishwa, akukho lunyango. Kwaye oogqirha abanakutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba isifo siza kubamba ngokukhawuleza kangakanani.

Ukwamkelwa kunokuba yeyona nto inzima ekujonganeni nezifo ezithile. Sifuna ukukholelwa ukuba abo sibathandayo baya kubetha okungahambelaniyo. Ukucinga ngokuchanekileyo malunga nekamva kunokusinceda ukuba silungelelanise ithemba lethu kunye neemfuno ezibonakalayo zononophelo lwasekhaya.

12. Ukuphuhlisa iindlela zokulwa ezikusebenzelayo

Yonke imeko yokhathalelo yahlukile kwaye ke kunjalo nomgcini ngamnye.

Abanye abantu banokugqiba ekubeni bathathe ixesha lokuhamba bodwa ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba eyona nto bayifunayo kukujoyina iqela lenkxaso.

Ukujamelana mihla le kunokuba lucelomngeni lokwenene. Zama ukufumanisa iindawo ezixinzelelekileyo zomhla wakho kunye nendlela onokunciphisa ngayo uxinzelelo. Mhlawumbi ungazuza ngokufumana uncedo lokugcina indlu okanye ukuhambisa ukutya. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe ngunaphakade, kodwa ukugcina intloko yakho ngaphezulu kwamanzi impilo yakho kunye nomntu omkhathalelayo kufuneka ibe yeyona nto iphambili.

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