Yintoni oza kuyibuza ugqirha xa utshekishe umntwana olungileyo

Imfundo yezeMpilo

Xa bebuzwa ukuba kutheni umntwana wabo esiya kwagqirha, abazali bahlala bephendula, Owu, ayonto, kukuhlolwa nje. Kodwa ukujonga umntwana kakuhle (i-WCC) ayisiyonto — ziyinto ebalulekileyo yokwakha kwimpilo yobomi kunye nokuba sempilweni kweentsana, abantwana kunye nolutsha. Ukutyelelwa kwabantwana kakuhle ngamathuba okulandela umkhondo womntwana wakho ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasekuhlaleni.

Yintoni ukujonga kakuhle umntwana?

Ukuhlolwa komntwana olungileyo lixesha lokuba ugqirha ajonge umntwana kunye nosapho ngokubhekisele kwimpilo yabo kunye nokuba sempilweni, utshilo uNatalie Ikeman, MPAS, PA-C, ugqirha oncedisayo Ukhathalelo lwempilo lukaHennepin eMinneapolis, eMinnesota. Impilo yomzimba ihlolwe ngoviwo kodwa nentlalo, ukukhula, kunye nempilo yeemvakalelo zijongwa kwiifom nakwingxoxo.

Ugqirha wakho uya kuxoxa ngokhuseleko, isondlo, kunye ne-dynamics yosapho ngexesha lokuqeshwa. I-WCC elungileyo inganika ugqirha wabantwana umfanekiso opheleleyo wentlalontle yomntwana.

Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba umntwana akhangelwe?

Njengoko igama lisitsho, ukutyelelwa kwabantwana lixesha lokuthetha-thethana phakathi kwabaguli, iintsapho kunye nabanikezeli babo bezempilo. Banika umboneleli wezempilo ithuba Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana basempilweni kunye nokuphuhlisa njengoko kulindelwe. Banika ithuba lokuba abazali babuze ugqirha nayiphi na imibuzo okanye baphakamise iinkxalabo abanazo ngokubhekisele kubantwana babo.

Ukutshekishwa kakuhle komntwana kunceda ekubambeni iingxaki xa ziqala kwaye kuthintele ukuba zingabi nzulu. Eli lelona xesha libalulekileyo lokuxoxa ngamanyathelo othintelo okuthintela uninzi lwezifo ezingapheliyo zabantu abadala ngoku ezixhaphakileyo kubantwana (ukutyeba kakhulu, ihyplipidemia, unxunguphalo, uxinzelelo, ukusilela kwesondlo, isifo samazinyo), utshilo uMartha E. Rivera, MD, ugqirha wabantwana nge Isikhumbuzo seMpilo yamaSabatha eLos Angeles.

Kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokuzihlola rhoqo ukunqanda ukuphoswa zimpawu zesilumkiso sento enokuba yingxaki. Kuhlala kungcono ukuba usebenze kunokuba usebenze, utsho UJeffrey S. Gold , MD, umseki weGolide ngqo yoKhathalelo.

Ngobuphi ubudala ukuba umntwana uhlolwe kakuhle?

Ngokubanzi, ukukhangelwa kakuhle komntwana kwenziwa kule minyaka ilandelayo:

• Kwiveki yokuqala emva kokuzalwa
• Inyanga e-1
• Iinyanga ezi-2
• Iinyanga ezi-4
• Iinyanga ezi-6
• Iinyanga ezili-9
• Iinyanga ezili-12
• Iinyanga ezili-15
• Iinyanga ezili-18
• Iinyanga ezingama-24
• Iinyanga ezingama-30
• Iinyanga ezingama-36
• Ubuncinci ngonyaka ukusuka kubudala be-3 ukuya kwi-21

Yintoni onokuyilindela xa ujongwa kakuhle umntwana?

Ezinye izinto zenzeka kutyelelo ngalunye kungakhathaliseki ubudala. Abantwana bayalinganiswa kwaye bayalinganiswa. Ugqirha wabantwana uyakwazi ukulandela ukukhula komntwana kwitshathi emiselweyo, eluncedo ekuvavanyeni impilo iyonke njengoko iingxaki ezininzi zezempilo zabantwana ziya kubonakala njengeengxaki zokukhula, utshilo uSara Silvestri, MD, FAAP, ugqirha wabantwana wasePennsylvania kunye nomseki Uxwebhu lokuNgamkela . Kuyakubakho novavanyo lwamanqanaba ophuhliso, abalulekileyo nanjengoko ukulibaziseka okuthile kunokulungiswa kwaye abantwana benza kakuhle xa unyango luqalwa kwangethuba.

Utyelelo kuyo yonke iminyaka ingabandakanya :

• Uviwo lwentloko-to-toe ngoogonyo kunye novavanyo lwelebhu (njengoko kufuneka)
• Ukujonga kuphuhliso kunye nokukhula
• Ukuva kunye nokuvavanywa kombono
• Ulwazi lwezemfundo malunga nempilo elungileyo yasemzimbeni nasengqondweni
• Iingxoxo malunga nokhuseleko kunye nokuthintela
• Ixesha lokubuza ugqirha kwaye ufumane iimpendulo malunga nempilo yomntwana wakho, indlela aziphatha ngayo kunye nokukhula kwakhe
• Ixesha lokuthetha ngokufunda komntwana, iimvakalelo, ubudlelwane, ukuba ngumzali, kunye nokhathalelo lwempilo-ntle

Ezinye izinto zichazwe ngakumbi kubudala. UGqr Silvestri waphula ezinye zazo:

• Kubantwana , iingxoxo malunga nokondla, ukulala, amanqanaba okukhula
• Iinyanga ezili-9-12 kunye neenyanga eziyi-18-24, ukukhokela kunye novavanyo lwehemoglobin
• Kwiinyanga ezili-18-24, Ukuhlolwa kwe-autism
• Okwesithathu nangaphezulu, minyaka le, iimvavanyo zokuva nokubona
• Ngo-9-11 no-17-19, Uvavanyo lwe-lipid
• I-11-12 nangaphezulu, ngonyaka, Ukuvavanywa koxinzelelo

Abazali banokucelwa ukuba baphume kwigumbi ngexesha lokuqeshwa kwabakwishumi elivisayo ukuze izigulana ezikwishumi elivisayo zikwazi ukuthetha nababoneleli bazo ngenkathalo. Oku kukunika ulutsha ithuba lokuba libuze imibuzo okanye lize neenkxalabo abanokungafuni ukuxoxa phambi kwabazali babo.

Umsebenzi obalulekileyo wokuhlolwa komntwana kakuhle ukusuka ebusaneni kukukhuthaza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabanikezeli bezempilo kunye nezigulana ezisencinci. Oku kunceda ukuseka inqanaba lokuthuthuzela elivumela ulutsha ukuba lukwazi ukujongana neenkxalabo zabo ezinokubakho.

Yeyiphi imibuzo onokuyibuza kutyelelo lwabantwana abalungileyo?

Akukho mibuzo isileyo, kwaye akukho nkxalabo incinci kakhulu. Umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukulungele ukuphendula nantoni na ekufuneka ubacelile. Ukuba ubambekile ukuba ungaqala ngaphi, Nazi ezinye iingcebiso :

Unyaka wokuqala

• Ngawaphi amanyathelo okhuseleko ekufuneka ndiwathathe, afana nokuvavanywa kwabantwana, iindlela zokulala ezikhuselekileyo, njl.
• Ngawaphi amanyathelo amele ukuba ndiwafuna kwaye nini?
• Zingaphi iinapukeni ezimanzi / ezingcolileyo ekufuneka umntwana wam abenazo?
• Loluphi ugonyo olunikwa nini?
• Zeziphi ezinye iindlela zokuthintela usana lwam ekufumaneni izifo ezosulelayo?
• Ndikwazisa nini kwaye njani ukutya okuqinileyo?
• Ufanele ukuba usitya kangaphi / kangakanani umntwana wam?

Iiminyaka 1-5

• Loluphi ugonyo olunikwa nini?
• Kukuphi ukutya ekufuneka umntwana wam akutye?
• Zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha eziqhelekileyo kwaye zeziphi ezifuna utyelelo lukagqirha?
• Ngawaphi amanyathelo amele ukuba ndiwafuna kwaye nini?
• Ndingenza ntoni ukuqala ukulungiselela umntwana wam ukuba akhathalelwe okanye afunde esikolweni?

Iiminyaka ezi-6 ukuya ku-10

• Ndingazi njani ukuba umntwana wam uyaxhatshazwa, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, kufuneka ndenze ntoni?
• Ufanele enze umthambo ongakanani umntwana wam?
• Lingakanani ixesha lesikrini elamkelekileyo?

Isikolo esiphakathi

• Yintoni ekufuneka ndiyazi malunga nokufikisa xa kuziwa emntwaneni wam?
• Ndiyithetha njani imicimbi emikhulu-enje ngoxinzelelo loontanga, isini, iziyobisi, ukutshaya, njl.
• Yeyiphi imikhwa yezempilo ekufuneka umntwana wam ayamkele xa efikisa?

Abatsha

• Ndingamnceda njani umntwana wam okhuselekileyo?
• Zeziphi izixhobo ezikhoyo kulutsha ukuba ziyazifuna? Unokuphuma ngaphandle kwegumbi ukuze umboneleli aphendule.
• Ngaba ungaphendula nayiphi na imibuzo umntwana wam anayo? Unokuphuma ngaphandle kwegumbi ukuze umntwana wakho abuze imibuzo ngqo kumboneleli.

Izinto zokukhumbula

Kuyanceda ukubhala phantsi imibuzo yakho ngaphambi kwexesha kunye nokuzisa incwadi yokubhala kunye nepeni ukugcina umkhondo walo naluphi na ulwazi olunikezelwa ngumnikezeli wezempilo womntwana wakho-njengokuphakama nobunzima, ukuze ukwazi ukuhlengahlengisa izinto ezinje ngamayeza kunye nezihlalo zemoto ngokufanelekileyo.

Nokuba umntwana wakho ubonakala esempilweni kwaye ekhula ngesiqhelo, gcina ukuqeshwa rhoqo kwaye uye kubo. Kukho ugonyo oluqhelekileyo umntwana wakho alufuna ukukhuselwa ngokupheleleyo ebudaleni. Eminye imiba isenokungabonakali kuwe, kodwa umboneleli wakho wezempilo uya kuyibona.

Ngelixa kukho izikhokelo, bonke abantwana bakhula ngendlela yabo. Ukuba ubona into ekukhathazayo, sukuphakuzela. Endaweni yoko, buza umboneleli wakho wezempilo malunga nayo. Umboneleli wakho wezempilo kwiqela lakho, kwaye uya kusebenza nawe ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho wenza kakuhle.