Olu suku lukaTata, khuthaza utata wakho ukuba aye kwagqirha

Impilo-ntle

Ngaba utata wakho ucinga ukuba usempilweni njengenkomo, kodwa ngaba unenkani njenge-mule xa kufikwa kutyelelo logqirha? Akayedwa. Ngokwe-2016 ukufunda yiCleveland Clinic, kuphela malunga neepesenti ezingama-42 zamadoda azimiseleyo ukuya kugqirha xa esoyika ukuba anezonyango. Ngaphezulu, i-53% yamadoda ichaza ukuba abayithethi kwaphela impilo yabo.

Ngomhla kaTata oza, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokukhuthaza utata wakho ukuba aye kugqirha kwaye ayikhumbule impilo yakhe. UKate granigan , ilungu le Umbutho Wokhathalelo Lobomi Ibhodi yabalawuli kunye ne-CEO yeLifeCare Advocates, babelane ngeengcebiso ezithile zokukhuthaza ngenkuthalo xa umzali engavumi ukuya kuqeshwa.

1. Kuqonde ukuthandabuza kwakhe

Mhlawumbi utata wakho wakhuliswa engoyiki kwaye engabonakalisi zintlungu — ukujongana nomzimba wakhe owalupheleyo kunokubangela ixhala kuye. Okanye mhlawumbi kungolawulo. Njengoko sikhula, siphulukana nolawulo kwizinto ezininzi, kubandakanya impilo yethu. Nokuba utata wakho ufuna ukubonakala omelele okanye azive ngathi unolawulo oluthile olushiyekileyo ebomini bakhe, inyathelo lokuqala kukuqinisekisa ukuba uyakuqonda ukuthandabuza kwakhe ngokuya kugqirha. Ngale ndlela unokulula ngakumbi kuloyiko oluthile.

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2. Yenze ibuyele

Beka ukhathalelo lwempilo lukatata wakho kwimigaqo yakhe. Ukuba umjongile exhuga iinyanga ezintandathu kwaye uyazi ukuba uyathanda ukuya kwigalufa, mbuze ukuba ucinga ukuba ugqirha angamnceda njani ambuyisele kwiilinki. Kuya kufuneka umkhuthaze, uGranigan ucebisa. Kufuneka ibe nentsingiselo. Musa ukuza kuyo ngokwembono 'kufuneka', kodwa kunoko 'Ndiyazibuza ukuba ngaba ucinga'.

Kwaye ukuba akazukuziqwalasela yena, ungayenza malunga nosapho. Yithi, ukuba awuyenzeli, yenzele yona thina .

3. Yiba nobuchule

Mhlawumbi ingxaki katata wakho ayiyondawo yokutyelela iofisi, kodwa endaweni yoko yingxaki eyenzekayo ukufika apho. Yithi unamadolo amabi kwaye ahambe aye eofisini kwicala elikude lesibhedlele kuya kuba buhlungu okanye kungonwabisi. Kwimeko apho, cebisa indlela yoyilo: Zisa unonophelo ekhayeni lakhe. Izinketho zasekhaya ziyafumaneka kwiindawo ezininzi-okanye kwii-tech-savvy pops phaya, umnxeba uya kumvumela ukuba abonane nogqirha ngqo kwifowuni yakhe.

4. Yiza nomhlobo

Ingcinga efanelekileyo yokucebisa uyihlo ukuba -ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuya-kufuneka eze nezinto ezimbini kugqirha: Uluhlu lwemibuzo malunga nayo nayiphi na inkxalabo yezempilo (kunye nolwazi lokuba unelungelo lokufumana ezo mpendulo) kunye nomntu othembekileyo onokunceda ukuthatha amanqaku. Ukuba nomntu abe khona njengothatha amanqaku kunye nomphulaphuli yindlela yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kuba ngekhe bakhumbule yonke into ngexesha elinye, utshilo uGranigan. Unokuzivolontiya kunye naye.

5. Hlonipha isigqibo sakhe

Khumbula, awunakuze umnyanzele utata wakho ukuba aye kwagqirha. Logama nje enesakhono sokuqonda kunye namandla okwenza izigqibo zakhe, kuya kufuneka uhloniphe into ayigqibayo, nokuba ayilulo ukhetho oza kulwenza. Ayilolungelo lethu njengomntwana omdala ukunyanzelisa nabani na ukuba enze nantoni na, utshilo uGranigan. Ngenxa yokuba ufikelela kwiminyaka ethile akuthethi ukuba ubuyela umva emva kokuba uxelelwe ukuba wenzeni.

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